There is more to divorce than matters of property division, child custody, child support and alimony. While you’re dealing with all these issues, many emotions will come to light. The way you approach these will impact your mental health and well-being now and in the future.
Here are five tips for dealing with your emotions in a divorce:
- Don’t dwell on the past: As difficult as it may be to get past your divorce, you must focus on the present. Doing so will allow you to make informed decisions to prepare you for a better life in the future. The past is in the past and you can’t do anything about it now.
- Don’t engage with your ex: Just when you’re feeling better, your ex may attempt to “pull you back in” by starting an argument. If you have children together, it’s critical that you learn how to successfully co-parent. But even so, this doesn’t mean you should let your ex play with your emotions.
- Lean on your support group: There’s never a reason to feel as if you have to be on your own. Look to your family, friends and co-workers for emotional support, as these people can help you through a very difficult time in your life.
- Work on detaching yourself from your relationship: Even after your divorce is in the past, it’s easy to get caught up on what went wrong, things you could have done differently and related details. The sooner you completely detach yourself, the easier it becomes to make a full recovery.
- Write out what you want from the future: It’s one thing to think about this, but another thing entirely to write out your goals. It’s easier to get over your marriage and subsequent divorce when you know what you’re trying to accomplish moving forward.
The way you deal with your emotions in divorce will impact you now and in the future. The right approach allows you to clear your mind and create a plan for living the life you want.
Along with keeping your emotions in check, do your part in protecting your legal rights. This is one more thing you can do to maintain control and position yourself for future success.