Divorce is a legal process that can inspire many changes in your life. One of these changes is that you may have to learn how to co-parent with your former spouse.
In many cases, co-parenting can benefit your children following the divorce process. However, you and your ex should both commit to forming a cooperative, long-term co-parenting relationship.
In 2021, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states that 689,308 couples decided to divorce or annul their marriages, and many of these couples with children had to learn how to co-parent. Establishing clear lines of communication with your co-parent is important to successful co-parenting. Share important information about your children’s well-being, school activities and extracurricular commitments.
Set consistent rules and expectations
Maintain consistency in rules and expectations across both households. Establishing common ground on issues such as bedtime, homework and screen time can foster stability for your children.
Share a calendar for events and activities
Use a shared calendar or scheduling tool to coordinate events and activities. This ensures that both parents have information about important dates, such as school functions, medical appointments and extracurricular activities.
Respect each other’s time
Be punctual for drop-offs and pick-ups and adhere to agreed-upon schedules. This demonstrates reliability and consideration, contributing to a more harmonious co-parenting relationship.
Conduct open discussions on major issues
Make major decisions about your children’s education, healthcare or extracurricular involvement with your former spouse. During these conversations, listen to the perspective of your ex while also voicing your opinions.
Encourage a positive relationship with the other parent
Support and encourage your children’s positive relationship with the other parent. Avoid speaking negatively about the co-parent in front of your children and foster an environment where both parents receive acknowledgement and respect.
Keep the focus on your children’s well-being throughout your co-parenting journey. Prioritize their emotional needs, create a supportive environment and celebrate milestones together.