Being married to a narcissist is a challenge, and those challenges do not end with the divorce process. Particularly if you have children with your narcissist ex-spouse, it is likely that you will need to be in a co-parenting situation with him or her, at least until your children come of age.
The good news is that co-parenting is generally in the best interest of the child. The bad news is that the situation does not make your ex-spouse any easier to deal with. However, there are several strategies you can take in mind in order to make co-parenting as smooth as possible. According to Healthline, two key strategies for parenting with a narcissist are to involve a legally-endorsed parenting plan and a court-appointed mediator.
Legally-endorsed parenting plan
Most co-parents do have a parenting plan in place, but if you are working with a narcissist, it is worthwhile to bring in the law. Working with a professional to ensure that the law oversees any parenting agreements you make with your ex-spouse can save a lot of trouble.
Legal help with your parenting plan can help prevent your narcissist ex-spouse from manipulating the situation. You will be able to involve legal professionals to help prevent this.
A court-appointed mediator
Depending on your divorce case, it is possible that the courts will mandate a mediator. If the courts do not, you can always request one. The job of a mediator is to help negotiate and moderate disputes related to parenting. While the mediator does not have legal power to make “decisions,” involving one can help prevent your spouse from “pressing your buttons.”
Divorce is challenging. Co-parenting after the fact is often more so. Taking advantage of court-offered services can make it easier.